A month ago I entered into a self-proclaimed 30 day experiment to see what my life would be like without social media (mainly facebook and instagram.)
The 30 days has been amazing and I'm not coming back to social media. This has offered me so much freedom, presence, focus and spaciousness in my life.
The first month was getting comfortable with all the new space. Now I'm settling into BEING in the space even more.
(I've included two recommended resources at the bottom.)
If you are curious about my experience, read on.
In all honesty this journey started 8 years ago, but I was only willing to really look at it recently when I sensed a need to tighten up where my energy was going. I decided to reclaim my facebook space.
I went from 1200 friends down to just over 300. FB only let me unfriend 50 people a day, so it took several days for me to bring in my circle. Just doing this felt good so I thought this was enough to do the trick.
Then last month I was re-reading some old journals and saw a plea from my soul over and over again to not spend so much time on my phone and computer and to go live my life. This was from journals I had written 8 years ago, before social media was what it is today!! So you can imagine how it's only gotten worse for me since then.
What really tipped me over the edge was when I watched "The Social Dilemma." I knew immediately I needed to get off social media all together for many reasons.
While it was a firm decision, I did not make it lightly.
It felt like a BIG decision, which also really bothered me. Why is it such a big deal to simply get off social media?
It was partly because I see all the good that came from being on social media and I couldn't ignore them.
And then there was this.
I have spent THOUSANDS of dollars (I'm not exaggerating) learning how to grow and build a business using facebook.
It seemed to be working and I was making beautiful connections, and it was a way for me to share instant inspiration as well as receive inspiration from others.
So, I had to sit with a few questions.
"Am I willing to let this go after all the money and time I invested and the many gifts I received?"
Since it's coming from my soul, YES. I am.
On top of that question, others asked me "How are you going to grow your business without facebook?"
My response was "I don't know, but I'm willing to find out."
I'm willing to find out because I knew I needed to show up differently in my life and in my relationship others and in my business.
This meant I needed space to see what else would become available when I wasn't caught up in and relied upon facebook and instagram anymore.
This led me to this 30 day experiment to see what life was like on the other side of social media.
What's funny is that it only took a few days of preparing to leave for me to know I wasn't coming back.
And as two nights ago, my FB account has officially been deleted. (They require a wait of 30 days and supposedly it will take 90 days for all my posts to be deleted from their database.)
I had a few other ladies join me on this experiment and what we are finding is similar between all of us.
💜 More presence in our life and our families.
💙 More time and energy for other experiences.
💚 More focus.
💛 More calmness in our mind, body and heart.
🧡 More FREEDOM
❤️ More connection with myself and with nature.
In one sentence, I feel like I have my life back.
One of the concerns I heard from people was their responsibility to stay plugged into what's happening in our world right now.
What I have noticed for myself and connecting with the larger world is that the more sensitive and tapped into energy I become, the more I feel like I have a better sense of what’s really going on in the collective field without needing to be in all the throws of the drama from the day to day things. I remember YEARS (like 20+) when I stopped watching the news. I’ve never missed it. Anything I need to know about, I hear about and then I can dive deeper into my own research if I want.
I realize this is not something everyone needs or wants to do, but just in case it is, I felt inspired to share.
There is life, a beautiful ad expansive life, on the other side of social media. And I know it's only going to get better as I get more and more comfortable with this spaciousness.
If you are feeling the call from your soul to create space, I encourage you to listen.
I highly recommend letting go of social media as an experiment for 30 days. I've done a 4 day experiment and while it felt better, it didn't offer the freedom I have now.
❥ 30 Days will let yourself BE with all the discomfort, all the loneliness, all the fears of missing out, the silence, the boredom, etc. And you will get to BE with YOURSELF!!
❥ 30 Days will allow you to let GO of the energetic hooks, the tugs, and the pulls.
❥ 30 Days will give you space to let IN your life for yourself. It will let your inner knowing be your loudest voice.
Here are a few resources to help you decide and support you along the way.
🍿 "The Social Dilemma" on Netflix (It is not lost on me that one addictive platform is talking about another.)
📖 "The Power of Off: The mindful way to stay sane in a virtual world" by Nancy Colier.
And if you have any questions or would like more resources, feel free to email me. I'm here.
Surrender Social Media on your own and see what's possible in hearing your own inner knowing and inner truth.
I look forward to seeing what this new spaciousness offers us.
Let it BE. Let it GO. Let it IN.
Throughout the year I offer a few, select opportunities to a small group of women who are ready to experience more play, remember how magical they are, and truly come home to themselves.
All of my retreats are intimate, limited to eight or less women who are ready to master surrender and experience serendipity.
Retreats are either held over zoom or in person at our retreat space in Hood River Oregon.